That's a lovebite

A stamp of passion for some, while an embarrassing display of bedroom aggression for others, a scratched bruise often called a lovebite or a hicky is one aspect of lovemaking that is usually greeted with raised eyebrows!

Take Kareena Kapoor, who hogged the limelight for a mark on her back that apparently looked like a lovebite from Saif. And ultimately poor Bebo had to clear the air by stating that nobody gets a lovebite on their back. Well, no clue how many of her fans believed that explanation.

Like Bebo, many women prefer keeping the marks of passion under wraps, while there are others who get a high in putting them on display. Says Prachi Gupta, a Delhi-based research analyst, "I suppose deep down, every person wants to show off how satisfying his/her sex life is. And flaunting a lovebite is a straightforward way to tell the world about the passion a couple shares, which makes a girl feel more confident in her circle of friends."

Be it putting your active and passionate love life on display or just going with the trend of being a bold love-maker who doesn't mind giving a peep-show to those around – does it calls for such aggressive love making? Answers Mahinder Watsa, a sex expert, "Till both partners agree to be a part of sexual experimentation, it is normal. Some people are aggressive lovers, who don't mind biting and scratching their partners. But, if it hurts the other and leaves visible wounds – it calls for attention and warning as the aggression can leave the other partner jittery or rather disinterested in the act."

Sudipto Banerjee, a Mumbai-based advertising professional has a different take, "I think a lovebite is somewhere between sexual passion and sexual aggression – I call it possession. When I leave my girl with a prominent mark, I feel I have stamped her with my love. I take it as the display of my affection."

However, it's not necessary; your partner is as cool with the idea of getting a stamp of your love, which even hurts in some unfortunate cases. Deepika Mahajan, a Delhi-based-teacher who recently got married, didn't have a happy love experience with her husband. Says she, "My husband was in a habit of biting whenever passion rode high. Initially, I couldn't tell him as I thought he wouldn't like it but soon it became unbearable and I started having an aversion to lovemaking."

What should one do in such a situation? Answers Watsa, "It's possible that a partner gets too harsh at times in the height of excitement, but if this is regular, the other partner must raise their voice. Begin by politely explaining to your partner that his form of love is hurting you. Some people get enjoyment out of hurting their partner while lovemaking, which is a kind of disorder. So, if you see such tendencies in your partner, don't hesitate from getting psychological help before it gets too late."

If you make a couple who doesn't mind going with the flow and enjoy some aggression mixed with love, but at the same time are in no mood to get embarrassed by displaying those passionate marks, we have some quick tips to heal a love bite...

Dr. Anindita Vohra explains, "A love bite is an amassed patch of blood vessels that break open due to excessive sucking or nibbling on a region, which is usually temporary and subsides in some days. But still one can do some immediate treatments."

1. Apply ice: Wrap a few ice-cubes in a towel and apply it around the lovebite. This will prevent swelling in the area. Rubbing ice directly over the area can turn it into frostbite and darken the colour so avoid doing that.

2. Spoon effect: This calls for some preparation before lovemaking. Keep a spoon inside the freezer before you get into the act. And in case you get bitten, rub the chilled spoon on the effected area in circular motion. Repeat it again after a couple of hours. The process will help break the small blood clots under your skin and aid the healing process.

3. 'Wet' rid of marks: Once the wound/swelling/bruise is heeled, the next step is to get rid of the marks. For this, take some warm water. Dip a piece of cloth in it and press the cloth on the lovebite for a few minutes. This will open up the blood vessels facilitating flow of more blood in the area by lessening the redness. Make sure your lovebite has healed before you do this. source

Types of men women hate

here might be ample qualities that make men irresistible. But women being the fairer sex have created certain stereotypes in men that they would never want to be seen with.

We list the most common kinds of men that women love to hate...

Thumbs down to dominant men : Gone are the days when a male dominated society used to be the way of life. So, if the next time you try to show your superiority in front of your girl, it might land you in a tight spot. Women prefer mates who're recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements – and not those who use coercive tactics to subordinate their rivals, reveals a new study.

Expert says : Dr. Chirta Bakshi, a relationship counsellor says, "Dominant behaviour is highly opposed by a female partner as she wants to enjoy the bond with equal respect. In any relationship, if one partner tries to have the upper hand in taking all decisions and if they portray their dominant self, it will not do any good to that relationship."

Macho guys aren't always lucky : A macho guy with an angry young man personality might look good on silver screen, but when it comes to real life, women aren't game to hang around with macho dudes. A recent study claims that macho guys don't always get the girls. The study further revealed that the most aggressive guys ended up with fewer wives and children.

Expert says : Personality development expert Varun Chhabra says, "Women today are more keen to pick a guy who flaunts a good body combined with a metro sexual image rather than the typical rough and tough hunk. Men who look tough from the outside and bear a soft heart within are women's favourite."

Keep sex starved men at bay : Men are usually sexually more charged up. But when it comes to choosing a mate, women don't opt for a sexually ravenous partner. This is maybe because for such men, sex is the top priority in the relationship whereas the woman continuously seeks love and romance, sans physical intimacy.

Expert says : Relationship and sex counsellor Dr. Geetu Bhardwaj shares, "It's not that women are not keen to have sex with their partner, but a man's sexual inclination does plan an important role when it comes to choosing their partner. Women generally aren't too comfortable with the idea of being with a man who has sex on his mind throughout the day. In such relationships, things like understanding and love are secondary and sexual intimacy is all that matters for the male partner."

Chauvinism is out completely : Remember Bobby Deol's chauvinistic character in Dostana, which was enough to drive his lady nuts. An excess of anything is bad. Women don't find a chauvinistic man a great companion to spend the rest of their lives with.

Expert says : Dr. Ratan Kumar, a clinical psychologist asserts, "There is a very thin line of demarcation between being a gentleman and chauvinist. A girl might love your care and concern, but your over chauvinistic attitude may irritate her at times. Make an attempt to give enough space to her and let the comfort zone be there as per mutual convenience."

Using slangs won't take you anywhere : Using abusive lingo every time you indulge in a conversation might lend you a cool dude look cool in front of your male peers, but girls don't want to hang around with a abusive man. Being too abusive and stressing on using slangs too often is a 'turn off' for today's women.

Expert says : Psychiatrist Dr. Anupam Randhawa states, "Men need to realise that a woman would like to be associated with a respectful and well-behaved mate. So using excess of slang language and abusive words during conversations can backfire. The reason why women keep such partners at bay is because they find it offensive when their man gets abusive as it comes as a gesture of disrespect to the relationship." source

Endure a sex marathon

Not very often does one get the opportunity to spend extended lovemaking time with their lover, but when such rare occasion does arise one should make it a point to keep it enjoyable as well as enduring.

Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it, and many times it could go all night.

Thus, to keep oneself in good form, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate, reports Fox News.

Before embarking on your sex marathon, it is better to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated.

And here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon:

Don't orgasm
You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation - because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. Change positions if you feel like you're losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn't the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.

Pleasure her to keep the focus off of you
If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest does not have to be totally sexual in nature, and it is just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways - or invent new ways of loving.

Don't drink too much
Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man's ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time. Alcohol also has sedative effects - it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behaviour. Drinking too much alcohol will not help enduring a sex marathon.

Get creative
While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure- ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Get creative - you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects.

Keep lube handy
One of the main problems of sex play for hours could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth. source

Women to keep away from your guy

Making your friends meet your guy might seem like a normal thing to do, after all they are the ones who know you best and are seen with you almost everywhere.

But it is not always safe to let the two ends meet, lest it turn fatal.

Overtly friendly types : These girls just don't seem to know where to draw the line. The Miss Congeniality type is commonly seen falling over other men. She may mean no harm, but tries to keep on touching him all over; would want to rest her body on him or laugh even at the silliest joke he cracks, giving out wrong signals. Such women are bound to make you feel awkward and left out since they don't know how to give space to a couple.

Manisha Kishore, 27 years, a PR consultant says, "We all had gone out to a pub once. When the music started to play and drinks started to roll, this pretty friend of mine dragged my boyfriend on to the dance floor. She was falling all over him making me feel embarrassed to the core. I didn't know how to handle the situation and I left the place fuming. I had a huge row with my boyfriend regarding this."

Expert Tip : "It's best to act mature in such cases and let your guy know that you don't like any woman takes such liberty with your beau. Also explain to him that he should shun such women so to avoid problems between the two of you. Do not over react since your guy is not exactly at fault in this situation. He might just be trying to be sweet to your friend," says psychiatrist Anjali Kumar.

Grabby types : She just can't resist a good catch. She is infamous for dating several men at the same time, some of whom may even be already engaged.

Swati Sharma, 22 years, an MBA student recalls, "I had this lass in college who we all friends knew was sleeping around with almost every man she could lay her hands on. Once our college gang had gone out for a movie where my guy was supposed to join us. This girl also came along. When my guy came, she started acting strange. She tried everything possible to grab some private moments alone with him and my guy didn't even resist her overtures. I got mighty pissed off and two days later found her raunchy text message on his mobile phone. I dumped him the same day."

Expert Tip : "Take your guy into confidence and tell him everything about the girl. This should do the trick since he won't then try to take her advances seriously," suggests Dr Bhavna Uniyal.

Gossipy kinds : She is not one of your best friends, yet knows a lot about your past (rather, all the secrets of your past). You can't leave your man alone with her because she might just spill the beans from your past that you don't want your partner to find out just yet.

Priyanka Sinha, 25 years, a legal executive with an MNC says, "I used to often hang out with a colleague (cum friend) from my workplace. We were like the best of bitching partners in office. Once it so happened that we got late outside and my guy had to drop her home. I was so restless all the while and my worst fears came true the very next morning. She told my guy about an ex who was a common friend my boy was really wary of. I didn't know what to say."

Expert Tip : "It's safest to keep this woman away from your guy or best to confide in him about your past and make him understand that it's history now. If you are successfully able to do that then you don't really need to worry about the woman," says psychologist Pankaj Vohra.

Desperate singleton : These women are constantly seen cribbing about their single status. She has tried her luck with almost every guy. She sees every man as a prospective target and leaves no stone unturned to make her seem available.

Ritu Kapoor, 29 years, a content writer states, "I took my fiancé out to our college alumni. I wanted him to meet my friends. A single friend started to take a lot of interest in him asking him about his profession, his interests, while I was busy mingling with other long lost friends. She even asked for his number. My eyes were constantly glued on to them and as a result I could not enjoy the evening at all. It was awful. I never want them to meet again."

Expert Tip : "If you are good friends with the girl, it's better to confide in her about the seriousness of your relationship and if you two aren't really good friends, then you should try to make your guy do something to put her off," says relationship expert Namita Krishnamurthy.

'I am sexy and i know it' : This best defines women belonging to this category. They know that they can win over any guy if they want to and are a dream catch for almost every guy they meet. Such friends pose a higher risk because they could very well catch your guy's fancy.

Ruchika Aggarwal, 22, a freelancer adds, "I had this super hot friend in college who met my guy soon after we started dating. Thereafter, he kept on asking me about making a plan with that group. It made me feel superbly insecure and I confided in him. He confessed that he found her quite hot and fun. So I had to cook up this really 'mean' story about her being a lesbian to turn him off."

Expert Tip : "Try to dress up well for your man. Accentuate your strengths. He won't have time to take his eyes off you," opines relationship expert Priya Saxena. Source

Fwd: How to combat body odour

Every region of the human body has a different odour; sometimes the odour is so distinctive so as to allow immediate identification of its origin . For instance, underarm and feet odours are easily recognised .

Recent medical research has shown that people with body odour are prone to less confidence levels which ultimately affect their personal and social relationships.

Feelings of shame, embarrassment, low self-esteem, isolation, frustration, anxiety and depression are extremely common where Body odour is present. Body odor refers to the unpleasant smell that is emitted by the body. The smell results from the presence of bacteria on the body.

The most common body parts that are associated with body odor include hair, feet, groin, skin, armpits, genitals, pubic hair, belly button and ears. Though sweating is seen as the most common reason for body odor, there are other reasons as well, due to which your body may emit a foul smell.

Sweat is not caused only by outside heat; it can also be caused by nervousness, sudden anxiety, unease, apprehension or fear. Perspiration, or sweat, is body's way of cooling itself, whether that extra heat comes from hardworking muscles or from over-stimulated nerves. Body odor is primarily generated in the area under the arms where there is a high concentration of sweat glands.

Body odour can be an embarrassment, which many face from time to time. Zodhita Inc., a successful pharma company from US is launching a range of Antiperspirants and Deodorants in Indian market to combat the typical body odour and perspiration problems of Indians. The range is available in the Indian market from October 2009 onwards. Go check out the Personal Hygiene shelves for the latest solutions available in the range of anti-perspirants and deodorants from Zodhita.

Seven simple home remedies to kill body odour
Alivia C suggests these simple and effective steps to reduce body odour and the ill effects there of:
Wash yourself: Take bath twice a day and always wash your self with soap and water, particularly areas that are likely to smell, such as the armpits and genital areas and the mouth. A few drops of rose water or tea tree oil added to the bath, will give long lasting freshness.

Use an Antiperspirant: Antiperspirants leave chemicals on the skin that kills the bacteria that causes body odour.

Kitchen comes to rescue: Applying baking soda, apple cider vinegar, white vinegar, alcohol, lime or ashes, tomatoes, which are readily available at home, can also help reduce perspiration.

Eat healthy: What you eat is directly related to your body odour, so eat healthy and avoid processed foods and too much red meat. Frequent consumption of garlic, cumin and masala can be the cause of foul smell, avoid alcohol and tobacco – this worsens your problem. According to medical experts, extracts of proteins and oils from certain foods and spices remain in your body's excretions for hours after eating them and can also impart on your body odour. Drink lots of water and fresh vegetable juices to reduce sweating and hydrate the body. Drink a glass of water in the morning, on an empty stomach, along with 500mg of wheatgrass. The chlorophyll present in the grass will help in reducing odour.

Cotton is the answer: Make it a habit of wearing fabrics such as cotton rather than synthetic materials. Cotton fabrics allow air to pass through it. So it reduces sweating and the odour associated with it. Choose your colours carefully; the colour black is known to produce heat which can make you sweat profusely. You can wear other cool colours like blue and white. You should avoid repeating your clothes without washing them and make it a point to wash the parts under the armpits thoroughly.

Waxing: The underarms tend to accumulate more sweat, removing hair by waxing or shaving helps prevent sweat rings.

Keep Calm: Keeping calm can also do the trick. Getting excited, feeling anxious or nervous make you perspire a lot. If you know you will go through these emotions, you have to use an extra dose of the antiperspirant in the morning. Source

Places to have a quickie......

Sometimes less time can actually be a lot of fun. Find out how...

Are hectic schedules ruining your sex life? Deadlines to be met and boss sounding you out every quite so often shouldn't play spoilsport when it concerns your sexual desires. So if you are out of time for a prolonged sexual session, have more fun with a quickie to get the adrenalin flowing again. Follow our users guide to indulge in a quickie.

Elevator
Rahul and Sonia, colleagues at a call centre swear by the benefits of intimacy in an elevator. Says Rahul, "It's a lot of a fun when you sneak out to the elevator. Making out there acts as a huge stress buster, especially when you are staying up nights continuously. You can always stop the elevator midway, do your thing and be back in seven minutes sharp. But be ready for the looks that your friends give you once you step back in. " Reiterates Sonia, "quickies are a lot of fun if you know what you want and how to go about it."

Explains psychologist Amit Verma, "A five minute sex session is a good idea, so long you limit it at that. It is the best solution in a age when lack of proper sex sessions creates a lot of frustration and stress. Yet, I would still advise that when one indulges in such activities, it is best to be mindful of the people around as it might not have a great effect on children if they happen to catch you in the act. Doing it in an elevator is a good idea so long you don't hurt yourself in that rush. "

Movie theatre
A great place to get dirty down and under. Especially in empty theatres where you have a lot of space and lack of prying eyes. Reveals Jyoti Sharma, a student, "My boyfriend and I often hangout at movie halls. This saves us from getting caught and the intimacy we both crave for is what we can achieve in the last row seats. It's quite a kick when I imagine about all the things me and my lover have done at movie halls. With romantic songs in the background, it's the perfect setting for one to get cosy."

According to Verma, movie theatres guarantee uninhibited privacy. But, if you get caught in the act, you might find yourself in a very embarrassing situation. "It's best to just find pleasure in touching each other and not experiment with intimate positions. Also, indulging in the act can be more enjoyable than the actual act itself. So why not explore these areas?" suggests Verma.

Back of a club/restaurant
Being out on a hot date sharing your wildest fantasises with your dream boat is exciting, so if both of you are up for a quickie, head to the darkest corner of a nightclub, or even the bathroom, and get your bang on.
"To have it on at a restaurant lends a great boost to one's sex life. Often it breaks the monotony and ups the desirability factor. Sometimes, I like to have these sessions with my wife, a quick one while heading back home, behind a club. It makes us feel young and bond with each other, the way we used to as teenagers," confesses Aakash Malhotra.

"The dark areas behind a club, the staircase or some such place actually is a mighty turn on for your libido. The thing with couples is they should do what they both would enjoy sexually. If making out at the back of a popular night club or eatery facilitates their idea of bonding, then there is no harm. You might have people giving you curious stares, but being naughty at times helps," points out Verma.

Stairwell
The staircase in your office building could serve as the ideal place for a 1hot romp with your girlfriend. Rhea Kumar, a manager says getting it on in the staircase is a huge turn on. "This particular colleague of mine is a pro at quickies. A bang on at the staircase preferably on a really high floor can make you go crazy for a few minutes. It can make you feel very adventurous and desirable," she adds.

Psychologist Sheetal Mehta however warns of the risks involved in getting dirty on the staircase. One wrong position and you could go tumbling down. "Stairacases are good fun, but do not go overboard with such places because you could end up hurting yourself beyond measure," she explains.

Car
So it's not an original idea, but a quickie in a car, at a location where you won't be arrested for public indecency, can be a very memorable experience. Cars are not only spacious, but they remain the most wanted fantasy of most couples. Ravi Tanwar, a sales executive, totally swears by it. "My girlfriend and I do it in the car just before I drop her home sometimes. It is a lot of fun doing at deserted place with no one to disturb you. Also because of the limited space, you are almost bumping into each other and that definitely is a turn on that keeps us wanting to go on for more."

Mehta agrees that cars and four wheelers can make you feel very romantic and good about yourself. "Getting intimate within four wheelers can do wonders to couples who go through a crisis or are in need of closeness with each other," she advises.

Alley
The narrow dark alley behind a restaurant or your workplace does sound like something straight out of a romantic thriller. And you can give it a shot as it's a good option for those who are wildly adventurous. "I like my man because he is very unconventional when it comes to physical intimacy. He gets utterly passionate in the most unlikely of places and we often end up feeling up each other in ways beyond our wildest imagination. Actually it brings all your dark fantasies to life," winks choreographer Anjali Menon.

Even as Mehta agrees, she points out," Dark places are always best for those who want to be physical and do not have ample space outside. Yet 'is best to use your discretion about such places because you might end up with the wrong kind of people at the wrong time."

Office
Sometimes sex within the office can make you a more fulfilled person. A 10 minute session with your girlfriend who also happens to be your colleague can make you a better worker with a sexually gratified existence. "I like to make out in the office for 5-7 minutes. It refreshes me and helps me concentrate better at achieving deadlines," reveals Shashi Gupa who works with a MNC.

"Office make outs are very common in an age when people spend most of their time in office. Most indulge in it as a way to deal with work pressure," states Mehta.

Dressing room
You get all hot and heavy while your girl is changing in the dressing room of a clothing store? Well, why not just sneak in to give a kick to the monotony of a regular shopping spree. "I tried it once with my girlfriend when the salesperson was called away for a while. Imagine the fun you can have inside the changing room as there are mirrors everywhere. Seeing yourselves in the mirror can make you knees go jell,y so just think about all that can follow," says student, Siddharth Roy.

"Dressing rooms are great fun if you can actually figure an entry. But these days, with a lot of strict rules and surveillance cameras inserted everywhere, you may be asking for a lot of trouble if you indulge in these kind of getaways. Infact, unless you are a compleibitionist, it's best not to get involved in all this," advises Mehta. Source

Different forms of Love

Whether you're 80 or 18, everyone just needs to be loved! Let's discover how notions of love expand and how falling in love has lost its retirement age!

We're living in a world where the age span of love is rising. From teenagers who are being told, 'How to be a Perfect Kisser', to middle-aged women who figure out '10 Ways to Please your Man in Bed' from magazines, and old couples who are advised on '20 Ways to Better Loving' – can anyone ignore love at any age? Why, even author Gabriel Garcia Marquez said, "I would prove to men how wrong they are to think that they stop falling in love as they get older, since they actually start getting older as soon as they stop falling in love."

Says relationship guru, Dr Rohit Juneja, "We're expanding our notions of love and are finding new expressions to show it; this makes us energetic and lively. The increasing divorce rate, in a way is healthy, because that shows that people don't want to be in loveless relationships."

Finally, the pursuit of love is making us get out of our comfort zone.

Desire to love: When you're 14, you don't need a reason to be in love. The love gurus have marketed love in every space of a youngster's life. At 14, for Vandana Sareen, boys are a fascinating subject. "We can't stop talking about guys. I'm in love with a boy in my class. At my age, the pressure to fall in love is intense. I don't know the difference between attraction and love yet. So, I'll just experiment."

For youngsters in the love market, it's about experimentation and glamour. Says psychologist Anu Goel, "Love in the teens is dreamy." There's an openness in the post I-pill generation. Explains marriage counsellor, Dr Kamal Khurana, "It's more fairy-tale and fantasy-like, where they think that everything is possible."

Young love
Spring is in the air; There's magic everywhere; When you're young and in love — The Marvellettes, American band

Maintenance of love : "There's hardly any maintenance required; love comes easy, and also goes easy," says psychologist Goel. "Women are more upfront in expressing love, which is all about deep intimacy, sexual longing and exploration fuelled by a consumer mentality," says Radhika Chopra, a sociologist at Delhi University. When you are young, and you fall in love, it's an illusion. For singer Hard Kaur, "Love is understanding... it's about making pancakes at three in the morning!" Why, even Rakhi Sawant is trying to look for love on India's national television. "I feel the need to find love and share my life with someone."

Middle-aged love
Love gets me every time my heart changed my mind – Shania Twain, singer

Desire to love: Even Google doesn't have a clear description of love for a middle-aged person! You're supposed to be looking after your babies and making a success of your career or having great sex outside marriage! This is the most vulnerable group; 'settled' couples feel 'unsettled', and divorce isn't uncommon, as most feel there's still time to find love. Says relationship expert Dr Rohit Juneja, "These are people living lives in quiet desperation. They want to break free. So, they start by having affairs. Monogamy is the monopoly of one individual, which leads to monotony."

Says author Kishwar Desai, who met Meghnad

Desai when she was 47. "Love happened to me. We share everything and have a deep sense of bonding!" Dr Avdesh Sharma says, "You cannot imagine how unhappy mid-lifers are with their marriages. When they meet attractive people, the chemistry is lethal. There's a craving for deep emotional intimacy in this group." So, what do men and women look for in love at this age? Says Anu Chadha, 52, accessory exporter, "I'm looking for love that is serene not heady and hip-hop." Sanjeev Khatri, VP, Queen's International Travels, believes, "Being in love makes you vivacious. For men, it's to be with someone who is emotionally and sexually attractive."

Maintenance of love : Growing up doesn't cool off desire, rather, it fires it up. "Love is about intimacy, appreciation and communication. Remove your conflicts," advises Dr Juneja. Meera Bhardwaj, a recently-married Delhi University lecturer at 42 feels, "Keeping love alive is about indulging in small romantic gestures, giving compliments and showing gratitude."

Old love
I wanna make you smile/ Whenever you're sad/ Carry you around/ When your arthritis is bad/ All I wanna do is/ Grow old with you – Adam Sandler, actor

Desire to love : Don't just blame Viagra; the desire to find love is intense at 62 for Col Raj Khanna. He says, "I lost my wife some years ago and was looking for friendship. So, when I found love for the second time, it was more about sharing." Dr Avdesh Sharma, psychiatrist, opines, "I've had men come to me, who have spouses who don't want sex. There are a lot of mismatched couples looking for emotional fulfillment. The solution is to find newness in your daily routine."

Maintenance of love : At 77, Mehtab Singh's definition of love is, "Loving stays young; the body grows old. Love can give you a glow even in your 70s." Says Dr Kamal Khurana, "Many people face the empty nest syndrome, so love in this stage has to be supportive." The need for physical intimacy is reflected in the attitude of 60- plus men in Joggers' Park, where conversations revolve around sex! Says Dr Raj Bhrambhat, sexologist, "There's new hope with Viagra. Men want sexual gratification even after 70. There's no age for love and sex. It can happen anytime." source:The Times of India