Women to keep away from your guy

Making your friends meet your guy might seem like a normal thing to do, after all they are the ones who know you best and are seen with you almost everywhere.

But it is not always safe to let the two ends meet, lest it turn fatal.

Overtly friendly types : These girls just don't seem to know where to draw the line. The Miss Congeniality type is commonly seen falling over other men. She may mean no harm, but tries to keep on touching him all over; would want to rest her body on him or laugh even at the silliest joke he cracks, giving out wrong signals. Such women are bound to make you feel awkward and left out since they don't know how to give space to a couple.

Manisha Kishore, 27 years, a PR consultant says, "We all had gone out to a pub once. When the music started to play and drinks started to roll, this pretty friend of mine dragged my boyfriend on to the dance floor. She was falling all over him making me feel embarrassed to the core. I didn't know how to handle the situation and I left the place fuming. I had a huge row with my boyfriend regarding this."

Expert Tip : "It's best to act mature in such cases and let your guy know that you don't like any woman takes such liberty with your beau. Also explain to him that he should shun such women so to avoid problems between the two of you. Do not over react since your guy is not exactly at fault in this situation. He might just be trying to be sweet to your friend," says psychiatrist Anjali Kumar.

Grabby types : She just can't resist a good catch. She is infamous for dating several men at the same time, some of whom may even be already engaged.

Swati Sharma, 22 years, an MBA student recalls, "I had this lass in college who we all friends knew was sleeping around with almost every man she could lay her hands on. Once our college gang had gone out for a movie where my guy was supposed to join us. This girl also came along. When my guy came, she started acting strange. She tried everything possible to grab some private moments alone with him and my guy didn't even resist her overtures. I got mighty pissed off and two days later found her raunchy text message on his mobile phone. I dumped him the same day."

Expert Tip : "Take your guy into confidence and tell him everything about the girl. This should do the trick since he won't then try to take her advances seriously," suggests Dr Bhavna Uniyal.

Gossipy kinds : She is not one of your best friends, yet knows a lot about your past (rather, all the secrets of your past). You can't leave your man alone with her because she might just spill the beans from your past that you don't want your partner to find out just yet.

Priyanka Sinha, 25 years, a legal executive with an MNC says, "I used to often hang out with a colleague (cum friend) from my workplace. We were like the best of bitching partners in office. Once it so happened that we got late outside and my guy had to drop her home. I was so restless all the while and my worst fears came true the very next morning. She told my guy about an ex who was a common friend my boy was really wary of. I didn't know what to say."

Expert Tip : "It's safest to keep this woman away from your guy or best to confide in him about your past and make him understand that it's history now. If you are successfully able to do that then you don't really need to worry about the woman," says psychologist Pankaj Vohra.

Desperate singleton : These women are constantly seen cribbing about their single status. She has tried her luck with almost every guy. She sees every man as a prospective target and leaves no stone unturned to make her seem available.

Ritu Kapoor, 29 years, a content writer states, "I took my fiancé out to our college alumni. I wanted him to meet my friends. A single friend started to take a lot of interest in him asking him about his profession, his interests, while I was busy mingling with other long lost friends. She even asked for his number. My eyes were constantly glued on to them and as a result I could not enjoy the evening at all. It was awful. I never want them to meet again."

Expert Tip : "If you are good friends with the girl, it's better to confide in her about the seriousness of your relationship and if you two aren't really good friends, then you should try to make your guy do something to put her off," says relationship expert Namita Krishnamurthy.

'I am sexy and i know it' : This best defines women belonging to this category. They know that they can win over any guy if they want to and are a dream catch for almost every guy they meet. Such friends pose a higher risk because they could very well catch your guy's fancy.

Ruchika Aggarwal, 22, a freelancer adds, "I had this super hot friend in college who met my guy soon after we started dating. Thereafter, he kept on asking me about making a plan with that group. It made me feel superbly insecure and I confided in him. He confessed that he found her quite hot and fun. So I had to cook up this really 'mean' story about her being a lesbian to turn him off."

Expert Tip : "Try to dress up well for your man. Accentuate your strengths. He won't have time to take his eyes off you," opines relationship expert Priya Saxena. Source

Fwd: How to combat body odour

Every region of the human body has a different odour; sometimes the odour is so distinctive so as to allow immediate identification of its origin . For instance, underarm and feet odours are easily recognised .

Recent medical research has shown that people with body odour are prone to less confidence levels which ultimately affect their personal and social relationships.

Feelings of shame, embarrassment, low self-esteem, isolation, frustration, anxiety and depression are extremely common where Body odour is present. Body odor refers to the unpleasant smell that is emitted by the body. The smell results from the presence of bacteria on the body.

The most common body parts that are associated with body odor include hair, feet, groin, skin, armpits, genitals, pubic hair, belly button and ears. Though sweating is seen as the most common reason for body odor, there are other reasons as well, due to which your body may emit a foul smell.

Sweat is not caused only by outside heat; it can also be caused by nervousness, sudden anxiety, unease, apprehension or fear. Perspiration, or sweat, is body's way of cooling itself, whether that extra heat comes from hardworking muscles or from over-stimulated nerves. Body odor is primarily generated in the area under the arms where there is a high concentration of sweat glands.

Body odour can be an embarrassment, which many face from time to time. Zodhita Inc., a successful pharma company from US is launching a range of Antiperspirants and Deodorants in Indian market to combat the typical body odour and perspiration problems of Indians. The range is available in the Indian market from October 2009 onwards. Go check out the Personal Hygiene shelves for the latest solutions available in the range of anti-perspirants and deodorants from Zodhita.

Seven simple home remedies to kill body odour
Alivia C suggests these simple and effective steps to reduce body odour and the ill effects there of:
Wash yourself: Take bath twice a day and always wash your self with soap and water, particularly areas that are likely to smell, such as the armpits and genital areas and the mouth. A few drops of rose water or tea tree oil added to the bath, will give long lasting freshness.

Use an Antiperspirant: Antiperspirants leave chemicals on the skin that kills the bacteria that causes body odour.

Kitchen comes to rescue: Applying baking soda, apple cider vinegar, white vinegar, alcohol, lime or ashes, tomatoes, which are readily available at home, can also help reduce perspiration.

Eat healthy: What you eat is directly related to your body odour, so eat healthy and avoid processed foods and too much red meat. Frequent consumption of garlic, cumin and masala can be the cause of foul smell, avoid alcohol and tobacco – this worsens your problem. According to medical experts, extracts of proteins and oils from certain foods and spices remain in your body's excretions for hours after eating them and can also impart on your body odour. Drink lots of water and fresh vegetable juices to reduce sweating and hydrate the body. Drink a glass of water in the morning, on an empty stomach, along with 500mg of wheatgrass. The chlorophyll present in the grass will help in reducing odour.

Cotton is the answer: Make it a habit of wearing fabrics such as cotton rather than synthetic materials. Cotton fabrics allow air to pass through it. So it reduces sweating and the odour associated with it. Choose your colours carefully; the colour black is known to produce heat which can make you sweat profusely. You can wear other cool colours like blue and white. You should avoid repeating your clothes without washing them and make it a point to wash the parts under the armpits thoroughly.

Waxing: The underarms tend to accumulate more sweat, removing hair by waxing or shaving helps prevent sweat rings.

Keep Calm: Keeping calm can also do the trick. Getting excited, feeling anxious or nervous make you perspire a lot. If you know you will go through these emotions, you have to use an extra dose of the antiperspirant in the morning. Source

Places to have a quickie......

Sometimes less time can actually be a lot of fun. Find out how...

Are hectic schedules ruining your sex life? Deadlines to be met and boss sounding you out every quite so often shouldn't play spoilsport when it concerns your sexual desires. So if you are out of time for a prolonged sexual session, have more fun with a quickie to get the adrenalin flowing again. Follow our users guide to indulge in a quickie.

Elevator
Rahul and Sonia, colleagues at a call centre swear by the benefits of intimacy in an elevator. Says Rahul, "It's a lot of a fun when you sneak out to the elevator. Making out there acts as a huge stress buster, especially when you are staying up nights continuously. You can always stop the elevator midway, do your thing and be back in seven minutes sharp. But be ready for the looks that your friends give you once you step back in. " Reiterates Sonia, "quickies are a lot of fun if you know what you want and how to go about it."

Explains psychologist Amit Verma, "A five minute sex session is a good idea, so long you limit it at that. It is the best solution in a age when lack of proper sex sessions creates a lot of frustration and stress. Yet, I would still advise that when one indulges in such activities, it is best to be mindful of the people around as it might not have a great effect on children if they happen to catch you in the act. Doing it in an elevator is a good idea so long you don't hurt yourself in that rush. "

Movie theatre
A great place to get dirty down and under. Especially in empty theatres where you have a lot of space and lack of prying eyes. Reveals Jyoti Sharma, a student, "My boyfriend and I often hangout at movie halls. This saves us from getting caught and the intimacy we both crave for is what we can achieve in the last row seats. It's quite a kick when I imagine about all the things me and my lover have done at movie halls. With romantic songs in the background, it's the perfect setting for one to get cosy."

According to Verma, movie theatres guarantee uninhibited privacy. But, if you get caught in the act, you might find yourself in a very embarrassing situation. "It's best to just find pleasure in touching each other and not experiment with intimate positions. Also, indulging in the act can be more enjoyable than the actual act itself. So why not explore these areas?" suggests Verma.

Back of a club/restaurant
Being out on a hot date sharing your wildest fantasises with your dream boat is exciting, so if both of you are up for a quickie, head to the darkest corner of a nightclub, or even the bathroom, and get your bang on.
"To have it on at a restaurant lends a great boost to one's sex life. Often it breaks the monotony and ups the desirability factor. Sometimes, I like to have these sessions with my wife, a quick one while heading back home, behind a club. It makes us feel young and bond with each other, the way we used to as teenagers," confesses Aakash Malhotra.

"The dark areas behind a club, the staircase or some such place actually is a mighty turn on for your libido. The thing with couples is they should do what they both would enjoy sexually. If making out at the back of a popular night club or eatery facilitates their idea of bonding, then there is no harm. You might have people giving you curious stares, but being naughty at times helps," points out Verma.

Stairwell
The staircase in your office building could serve as the ideal place for a 1hot romp with your girlfriend. Rhea Kumar, a manager says getting it on in the staircase is a huge turn on. "This particular colleague of mine is a pro at quickies. A bang on at the staircase preferably on a really high floor can make you go crazy for a few minutes. It can make you feel very adventurous and desirable," she adds.

Psychologist Sheetal Mehta however warns of the risks involved in getting dirty on the staircase. One wrong position and you could go tumbling down. "Stairacases are good fun, but do not go overboard with such places because you could end up hurting yourself beyond measure," she explains.

Car
So it's not an original idea, but a quickie in a car, at a location where you won't be arrested for public indecency, can be a very memorable experience. Cars are not only spacious, but they remain the most wanted fantasy of most couples. Ravi Tanwar, a sales executive, totally swears by it. "My girlfriend and I do it in the car just before I drop her home sometimes. It is a lot of fun doing at deserted place with no one to disturb you. Also because of the limited space, you are almost bumping into each other and that definitely is a turn on that keeps us wanting to go on for more."

Mehta agrees that cars and four wheelers can make you feel very romantic and good about yourself. "Getting intimate within four wheelers can do wonders to couples who go through a crisis or are in need of closeness with each other," she advises.

Alley
The narrow dark alley behind a restaurant or your workplace does sound like something straight out of a romantic thriller. And you can give it a shot as it's a good option for those who are wildly adventurous. "I like my man because he is very unconventional when it comes to physical intimacy. He gets utterly passionate in the most unlikely of places and we often end up feeling up each other in ways beyond our wildest imagination. Actually it brings all your dark fantasies to life," winks choreographer Anjali Menon.

Even as Mehta agrees, she points out," Dark places are always best for those who want to be physical and do not have ample space outside. Yet 'is best to use your discretion about such places because you might end up with the wrong kind of people at the wrong time."

Office
Sometimes sex within the office can make you a more fulfilled person. A 10 minute session with your girlfriend who also happens to be your colleague can make you a better worker with a sexually gratified existence. "I like to make out in the office for 5-7 minutes. It refreshes me and helps me concentrate better at achieving deadlines," reveals Shashi Gupa who works with a MNC.

"Office make outs are very common in an age when people spend most of their time in office. Most indulge in it as a way to deal with work pressure," states Mehta.

Dressing room
You get all hot and heavy while your girl is changing in the dressing room of a clothing store? Well, why not just sneak in to give a kick to the monotony of a regular shopping spree. "I tried it once with my girlfriend when the salesperson was called away for a while. Imagine the fun you can have inside the changing room as there are mirrors everywhere. Seeing yourselves in the mirror can make you knees go jell,y so just think about all that can follow," says student, Siddharth Roy.

"Dressing rooms are great fun if you can actually figure an entry. But these days, with a lot of strict rules and surveillance cameras inserted everywhere, you may be asking for a lot of trouble if you indulge in these kind of getaways. Infact, unless you are a compleibitionist, it's best not to get involved in all this," advises Mehta. Source

Different forms of Love

Whether you're 80 or 18, everyone just needs to be loved! Let's discover how notions of love expand and how falling in love has lost its retirement age!

We're living in a world where the age span of love is rising. From teenagers who are being told, 'How to be a Perfect Kisser', to middle-aged women who figure out '10 Ways to Please your Man in Bed' from magazines, and old couples who are advised on '20 Ways to Better Loving' – can anyone ignore love at any age? Why, even author Gabriel Garcia Marquez said, "I would prove to men how wrong they are to think that they stop falling in love as they get older, since they actually start getting older as soon as they stop falling in love."

Says relationship guru, Dr Rohit Juneja, "We're expanding our notions of love and are finding new expressions to show it; this makes us energetic and lively. The increasing divorce rate, in a way is healthy, because that shows that people don't want to be in loveless relationships."

Finally, the pursuit of love is making us get out of our comfort zone.

Desire to love: When you're 14, you don't need a reason to be in love. The love gurus have marketed love in every space of a youngster's life. At 14, for Vandana Sareen, boys are a fascinating subject. "We can't stop talking about guys. I'm in love with a boy in my class. At my age, the pressure to fall in love is intense. I don't know the difference between attraction and love yet. So, I'll just experiment."

For youngsters in the love market, it's about experimentation and glamour. Says psychologist Anu Goel, "Love in the teens is dreamy." There's an openness in the post I-pill generation. Explains marriage counsellor, Dr Kamal Khurana, "It's more fairy-tale and fantasy-like, where they think that everything is possible."

Young love
Spring is in the air; There's magic everywhere; When you're young and in love — The Marvellettes, American band

Maintenance of love : "There's hardly any maintenance required; love comes easy, and also goes easy," says psychologist Goel. "Women are more upfront in expressing love, which is all about deep intimacy, sexual longing and exploration fuelled by a consumer mentality," says Radhika Chopra, a sociologist at Delhi University. When you are young, and you fall in love, it's an illusion. For singer Hard Kaur, "Love is understanding... it's about making pancakes at three in the morning!" Why, even Rakhi Sawant is trying to look for love on India's national television. "I feel the need to find love and share my life with someone."

Middle-aged love
Love gets me every time my heart changed my mind – Shania Twain, singer

Desire to love: Even Google doesn't have a clear description of love for a middle-aged person! You're supposed to be looking after your babies and making a success of your career or having great sex outside marriage! This is the most vulnerable group; 'settled' couples feel 'unsettled', and divorce isn't uncommon, as most feel there's still time to find love. Says relationship expert Dr Rohit Juneja, "These are people living lives in quiet desperation. They want to break free. So, they start by having affairs. Monogamy is the monopoly of one individual, which leads to monotony."

Says author Kishwar Desai, who met Meghnad

Desai when she was 47. "Love happened to me. We share everything and have a deep sense of bonding!" Dr Avdesh Sharma says, "You cannot imagine how unhappy mid-lifers are with their marriages. When they meet attractive people, the chemistry is lethal. There's a craving for deep emotional intimacy in this group." So, what do men and women look for in love at this age? Says Anu Chadha, 52, accessory exporter, "I'm looking for love that is serene not heady and hip-hop." Sanjeev Khatri, VP, Queen's International Travels, believes, "Being in love makes you vivacious. For men, it's to be with someone who is emotionally and sexually attractive."

Maintenance of love : Growing up doesn't cool off desire, rather, it fires it up. "Love is about intimacy, appreciation and communication. Remove your conflicts," advises Dr Juneja. Meera Bhardwaj, a recently-married Delhi University lecturer at 42 feels, "Keeping love alive is about indulging in small romantic gestures, giving compliments and showing gratitude."

Old love
I wanna make you smile/ Whenever you're sad/ Carry you around/ When your arthritis is bad/ All I wanna do is/ Grow old with you – Adam Sandler, actor

Desire to love : Don't just blame Viagra; the desire to find love is intense at 62 for Col Raj Khanna. He says, "I lost my wife some years ago and was looking for friendship. So, when I found love for the second time, it was more about sharing." Dr Avdesh Sharma, psychiatrist, opines, "I've had men come to me, who have spouses who don't want sex. There are a lot of mismatched couples looking for emotional fulfillment. The solution is to find newness in your daily routine."

Maintenance of love : At 77, Mehtab Singh's definition of love is, "Loving stays young; the body grows old. Love can give you a glow even in your 70s." Says Dr Kamal Khurana, "Many people face the empty nest syndrome, so love in this stage has to be supportive." The need for physical intimacy is reflected in the attitude of 60- plus men in Joggers' Park, where conversations revolve around sex! Says Dr Raj Bhrambhat, sexologist, "There's new hope with Viagra. Men want sexual gratification even after 70. There's no age for love and sex. It can happen anytime." source:The Times of India

Love style

Research has conclusively proved that love comes in several different forms that can be further categorized. These few styles may be a blend of two or three styles!

Love! Ah, what does one say - it's like a cool breeze on a hot, muggy summer night, a magical droplet from the sky, a warm kiss from a lover, a hug from a buddy. Although, the experience may be very divergent, what's certain is that love means different things to different people.

Hues of love:

How do I get this done love: Some people experience love as a game to be played with other people's emotions. The desire is to gain control over a partner through clever calculation. People who experience this kind of love have multiple love interests where they are in complete control. Lying, cheating and deception are common for these people as it is part of the game. For people who experience such love, it is satisfying to outwit a partner and exploit his or her weak spots.

Madly, deeply, irrevocably in love: Some people experience love with a lot of passion, intimacy and intensity. Here the love has a strong sexual and emotional component. People who experience love this way want to be emotionally and physically close to their romantic partners and tend to idealize love. Such love is marked by passion as well as compassion (kindness and consideration). This kind of love is best viewed as romantic, passionate love - the type that creates excitement at the beginning of a new relationship.

Obsessed, possessed love: For some people, love is being out of control! It turns one's life upside down and results in a complete loss of one's identity. People who experience this kind of love fall in love quickly, but their love tends to consume them, and is likely to burnout even before it gets the chance to mature. Such love is often marked by extreme delusions, rash decisions and vulnerability.

Steady slow love: Some people experience love as a gradual and slow process. When love is like this, getting to know a potential partner comes before having intense feelings for that person. Falling in love requires genuine liking and understanding and it develops slowly over time. It is often compared to the love that one has for a friend. In fact, people who experience this kind of love often fall in love with their friends.

Nurturing love: For some people, love is taking care of a person. It is the overwhelming desire to look after a partner like one would after a child or a parent. Such love is attentive, caring, compassionate and kind - an altruistic type of love.

Logical love: However oxymoronic it may sound, but there are some people who take a practical approach to love. It is a clear-cut way of thinking based on common sense and reason. People who experience this kind of love tend to pick a 'suitable' mate after much deliberation and thinking. Practical concerns underlie this type of love. source:The Times of India

First Night Sex

The first time you have sex, it's not all smooth sailing. In fact, many fears are attached to it. Dr Mahinder Watsa tells you what to expect (and what not to expect) the first time you get intimate with someone.

There'll be many a slip
Everybody wants their first time to be perfect. Some even envision it to be some kind of fairytale moment. Nothing wrong with that, but one should know that there could be slip-ups, all the same. The man often wishes intercourse to last longer, but if he achieves orgasm early (presumably due to a rush of excitement), it is okay! Some may even fail to achieve an erection and in that moment of disappointment, label themselves as not being 'up to the mark'. If that is what you think, it is a big mistake. You can always end the session with ample foreplay. If things don't go as planned in the very first time, there's always a second time. If a man can achieve an erection during masturbation, he is normal. So just relax and go with the flow.

Yes, it hurts, but wait
For women, the first time can be a little painful, but hang on. It's not the pain that they must dread. In most cases, the pain is almost like that of finger prick. However, it's the fear of pain that makes things worse. The hype surrounding the pain often induces fear in women, resulting in spasms at the slightest touch. This is where it is important for the partner to step in. Firstly, ensure she feels comfortable with you. Ample foreplay is a must to get the vagina lubricated. Start with inserting a finger to rupture the hymen,
and then slowly, proceed towards intercourse. The key is to take it slow.

Bleeding? Maybe. Maybe not
That a woman must bleed during her first intercourse is undoubtedly the most misguided notion people harbour. The bleeding occurs when the hymen splits. However, why is it so difficult to understand that the same hymen which is considered a mark of virginity by many men can also split due to other reasons? Rigorous exercises such as cycling can split the hymen. In some cases, it may even be congenitally absent. The hymen can also rupture, when women masturbate. Bleeding, or no bleeding, the fact that you are close enough to your partner to get sexually intimate demands you also put a certain level of trust in her. Doubts, if any, should be cleared right in the beginning, and not in the bed.

Contraception can fail
One wrong move is enough to invite unwanted pregnancy. Don't rely on withdrawal method or the safe days of the woman's menstrual cycle. Unmarried couples must use condoms. If marriage is around the corner, the woman can visit her gynaecologist a month before the wedding. The doctor will put her on oral contraceptives, safe enough to see the couple through the honeymoon phase. Later, the couple can consult the gynaecologist and select the contraceptive method that suits them the best.

It will get messy
When body fluids are exchanged, it can get quite messy. But there are no two ways about it. Either you do it, or you don't. So don't fret too much about unwanted stains and keep an extra sheet handy. Source:The times of India

Living with a sex-addict?

When Simran started dating Rohit, she found him to be an aggressive, but a fun-to-be with lover who did everything to rock her sex life in bed. But

Is she addicted to sex? (Getty Images)

by the time they ought to speculate marriage, she realised that he wasn't a normal man with normal sexual desires.

Rather, he was a sex-addict, whose wild sex etiquettes and voracious hunger for physical intimacy was having a negative impact on their life together. Failing to cope up with his overtly insatiable sex drive, known to the world as 'Satyriasis' or 'Don Juanism', Simran had no option but to part ways with her beau.

Even for males, there's a chance that you maybe hooked to a 'nymphomaniac', who appears as - 'a loving girl for you' in the beginning. But by the time her 'sex-kitten' avatar comes to the fore it's already too late to pull up your socks. Dr. Sameer Parikh, a psychologist, defines sex addiction as a situation, "When having sex is seen as one's sole priority, leading to a neglect of the other important facets of life (e.g., working, socializing, and sleeping), an addiction or compulsion to sex. Sexual addiction and compulsivity include, any sexual behaviour which is "had" or done in an obsessive, uncontrollable, and/or irrational way that becomes self-destructive. People with this diagnosis feel, and indeed may have, little or no control over sex, and are required to go through psychological therapies and medication in some cases."

So, before you get into involved with a sex maniac, here are a few cues to help you know if you are clinging onto a sex addict or a nymphomaniac. However, remember that these are just cues and not a yardstick to make or mar your relationship.

He's a sex-addict if ...
1. Normal lovemaking session? Not for him!
He usually complains about the lack of variety in his sex life with you. Normal love making sessions never satisfy him as he demands hard core porn-star type moves and grinds. He finds bliss in numbers, be it the number of abnormal sex-positions or the number of times he wants to climax in a single night...all hinting towards his out-of-control sexual problem.

2. He's leading a double life
Do you doubt he's having a liaison with someone else only to seek sexual gratification? Do you feel cheated in his company? Does he hide his 'self-help' acts from you, only because he is going overboard with them? And despite repeatedly telling him, he simply can't control his sexual urges.

3. He constantly digs into sexual stuff
No, we are not talking about men who take pleasure in watching occasional porn or reading sex write-ups and looking at photographs, but a man who is pre-occupied with X-rated stuff even at times and places where it's strictly avoidable. It's only X-rated movies that he is interested in most of the times. If his browser history reveals out and out porn sites in chronological order and his mail box is filled with invitations from adult dating sites ...you have all the reasons to watch out for.

4. Sex on his mind!
In his diehard pursuit of sex or romantic relationships, he is neglecting his social, professional and spiritual responsibilities and development. Even the extreme fear of being inflicted by STDs is no hurdle in his sexual escapades...then you should know he's an addict.

5. He's a runaway guy!
Does he usually try to get away from you after having sex? When he desires, he wants a roller-coaster session but soon after it's over, he's filled with guilt of getting physically close to you. This sense of withdrawal is due to his awareness about the compulsive craving for sex which he fails to curb.

6. Legal troubles? Who cares!
You caught him talking over the phone in an indecent (sexually explicit) manner with someone. You get to know of some legal allegations against him for anything - ranging from having a romp at an illegal place or with someone like a prostitute or a minor. You might even find him engaging in offensive activities like voyeurism or exhibitionism. If even the prospects of getting into legal trouble fail to stop him from exercising his sexual prowess, you should be aware that you are living with an addict!

7. He's getting cynical by the day
Together with the above mentioned clues, if you find your guy living with intense negative feelings of guilt, shamefulness and remorse, the extent of being suicidal, it's only because he can't stop himself from doing what he knows is wrong not just for him but also for his loved ones.

She's a nymphomaniac if...

Is she addicted to sex? (Getty Images)

1. She's a spotlight hog
Nymphomaniac women need attention from more than just one person. She can go to any extent to be a man-magnet. So, beware if your partner is all over your friend, colleague, boss or any new male for that matter.

2. The world is sex-starved to her
That's the notion she lives in. To a Nympho, no one is oversexed, only undersexed! And she is the only one on planet Earth to satiate the sexual hunger of every sex-starved soul.

3. She's always in a relationship
Her past reveals one continuous series of relationships, overloaded with sexcapades. And the reason why she's never single is that she can't stand being alone.

Moreover, each one of her former boyfriends is stark opposite from one another, hinting towards the fact that she's not looking for that certain someone special, but for that certain anyone.

4. Sex, sex every where
No matter what you say to her, she will only decipher a sexual meaning or connotation from it to satiate her urges. She'll attach every thread of conversation with eroticism finally leading to sex.

Even your passive behaviour is no resistance to her over-charged self pouncing upon you.

5. Sex is a drug
Yes, to all her ailments, anxieties and problems the only medicine that works best is - sex. She just can't get over it. Knowingly most of the times, she fails to get over that compulsive compelling to get you into bed.

6. Too much, too soon
That's her expectation from the relationship and when we say this, we mean only her physical demands. While a normal girl is still happy with kissing and cuddling, she is already burning with a burning desire to be in bed with you...with her ruling the roost, of course!

7. Deny her and see!
Every man goes through certain 'low-drive' days, when he just fails to reciprocate his gal's passion and makes lame excuses for the next time.

But dare to deny a nympho and she'll touch the extremes of behavioural patterns, including a severe spat, depression and an acute sense of withdrawal from everything around her. Extreme suicidal tendencies will get more severe.

Expert advice:
"It is impossible for sex-addict themselves to realise the need of treatment for his state of being. In such a scenario, it is the prerogative of the other half to deal with patience and convince him/her to meet an expert for advice. Lack of treatment can not only expose the addicts to acute embarrassment, but also land them in legal troubles and wrong relations, especially in the case of women," explains physiatrist, Dr. Aruna Broota.
Source:timesofindia.indiatimes

How to de-stress your sex-life

Do you feel that stress is squeezing the fun out of your bedroom life?

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If yes, then you can bring back the action, courtesy tips provided by sex educator and relationship expert Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright. According to the expert, many couples become frustrated, even panicky, when their sex lives go to the wayside during stressful times. When it comes to the factor that governs a person's sex life, it's personality, reports Fox News.

Fulbright says that how an individual's sex life fares depends on whether he tries to get closer to his partner in tragic times or wants to be totally alone and if he's the withdrawing sorts, then it can create misunderstandings in the relationship.

In order to avoid any such misunderstandings and still keep sex life full of fun and passion, Fulbright has suggested that couples need to establish a common ground and mutual understanding during stressful times.

Also, they should make an effort to stay connected during life's highs and lows, because if they don't, it could lead to dire consequences. And in case, sex is not on mind and also the time to be spent in the sack is less, then a person can try the following:

1. Showing appreciation for one another. Giving compliments, for example, is a simple way of expressing affection and letting your partner know that he or she is still being noticed and loved.

2. Talking daily. Chat during dinner or at bedtime. Conversations foster bonding by providing support. It's also important for couples to check in with each other, showing concern and care for one another's well-being with simple statements like, "Tell me about your day."

3. Staying positive . Bite your tongue if you're about to complain. Stressful situations are hard enough to deal with. Don't add to it if you can avoid doing so.

4. Believing in your future together. Stressful times can make lovers doubt their ability to stay together for the long haul. Insecurity issues that arise can only make matters more difficult. Making plans is one way to indicate that you're feeling secure about your future.

5. Helping each other with responsibilities . Approaching tasks with a team effort provides a greater sense of being in 'this' together.

6. Balancing 'alone time' and 'together time.' Create a sensual atmosphere, for example, soothing scents, dim lights, delicious food, and relaxing music to help you unwind.

7. Getting creative in how you'll be intimate . Redefine your definition of sexual intimacy when needed; try a simple body massage.

Not to forget, lovers should make it a point to give in to one another's requests for intimacy whenever possible, as it might just prove to be a big stress-buster. In fact, sex has many physical and emotional benefits, which may help in boosting your desire for more sex and emotional intimacy. Sex can easily take your mind off of your worries.

Also, patience is the key to get your sex life back on track. One should make sure that your relationship, in general, doesn't get neglected. Source:timesofindia.indiatimes

Top ten sex romps

Are you always complaining that your sex life is running out of steam? Well, what's stopping you from getting adventurous and innovative? Charge up your sex life using this list of the 10 craziest places to fool around...or you could get inspired and think of a few of your own!

1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it's comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker!
Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course!

2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of 'ylang ylang' essential oil and be certain that the sensuous experiment will lead to some supah hot sex.
Word of caution: Check out the water temperature, you don't want to end up with painful blisters or a frozen lover...isn't?

3. In the kitchen: Be it 91/2 Weeks or Fatal Attraction , the kitchen has borne witness to quite a number of sexapades. The sturdy surfaces and shelves offer great support, especially for stand-up acts, while the feeling of being at an unconventional place pumps up the excitement to newer heights. And how can you miss the yummy treats your kitchen is loaded with? Eat them, but off each other's hot bods. Think chocolate, cream, jams and jellies!
Word of caution: Know the stuff you are eating and applying...some edibles are good only to eat. So watch out for allergies!

4. In the pool: Though not many are privileged to have one in the confines of their home, if you are one of the lucky few, make the most of it. Challenge your swimming skills and get under for into some underwater escapades. Who said that the inflatable water turtle is meant only for tanning, use it for some steamy adventure...ride it together and get a new high!
Word of caution: You need not be swimming champs, but fairly decent floating skills are definitely expected to get into the water-y fun.

5. In the car: Yes it's crammed, but it's cosy too. A quickie in the backseat can rekindle the excitement that you felt during your heady college days. Put on some romantic retro tracks and switch on the AC. Don't fret, it won't cool down the passion. When the place is different, the position can't be a drab. It's tough to adjust facing each other, but turning the world around can definitely help...hope you got the clue!
Word of caution: Just be careful where you park...you don't want to get busted!

6. In the dressing room: How about catching her unawares in the dressing room of a store? Sounds dangerous but thrilling too! The fear of getting caught will only add to the sensual experience, while the lack of time is perfect to give you a never before quickie. Thinking comfort? Sorry! All you have is a stool...let him stand as you take charge!
Word of caution: Making noise is not allowed here and do take care of hidden cameras and key-holes.

7. The stairs: If you are thinking they can be a pain to one's body, think again, as they can be adventurous too. After all, they can give you those highs and lows, especially when the girl is comparatively short.
Word of caution: Don't get really aggressive if getting cramps in your lower back is not on your mind.

8. On the roof : Yes, this can be a great playground; the gentle moonlight, a cool breeze to caress your passionate entwinings. Pep it up with some paper lamps or scented candles and light music, which will just add to the mood. You have all the space to set the ball rolling...so go ahead and explore her contours under a starry sky.
Word of caution: No physical risks are involved...but just take care of peeping Toms around.

9. In a sleeping bag: Nothing could bring you as close as that sleeping bag that's meant for a single person and is loaded with two! Why not get into some naughty action and add to a fun-filled camping trip? Instead of the normal position, turn around and have some fun from behind. Talk about kinky fantasies!
Word of caution: Zip the bag properly, you don't want end up killing insects in the mid of the act.

10. On a plane: You can try the toilet and if that's too cramped, the seat in a Business or First class cabin. Some airliners with long-haul flights now boast of recliner seats that go as flat as a bed. Take a flight of fantasy.
Word of caution: Don't try it if you already have flight phobia and take care of people lining-up outside the loo. Source:timesofindia.indiatimes

Seducing the senses

You can touch my hair and kiss me everywhere... Does it sound too clichéd or rather boring way to seduce your partner? Are you tired of reading the

same old techniques of seduction?

Well, what about going back to the basics? And nothing can be more basic than the five senses - sense of sight, sense of smell, sense of taste, sense of hearing, sense of touch. These can really keep things sizzling hot during sex. Vatsayan would have definitely vouched for that! We get modern day experts to share more on it...

To keep the flames burning in your sex-life, you must fine-tune your seduction skills. With fingers busy, mouths, lips, tongues, noses, and eyes enticed, sensuousness will linger in every move to make you the most desirable man or woman of seduction.

Rita Gangwani, an etiquette expert, shares, "Sometimes we take the senses so much for granted that we don't really pay attention to them. Working to develop the five senses and focusing on them while making love, drawing attention to his/her sensuousness will not only enhance your own pleasure, but will give pleasure to your lover as well."

Dr. Sanjay Chugh, expert on sexual issues, says, "The seduction tips that one can employ also depends on 'overall' quality of the couple's relationship. If there is a healthy emotional and psychological bond between the two, the chances of a good sex life is high. And in case, if one incorporates a few out-of-the-box techniques, then it's definitely some icing on the cake!"

Psychiatrist Dr. Samir Parikh supports, "Couples need to keep trying to make things work for them but the key is not just trying new things, its more to be attuned to each others likes, fantasies and pleasures so that a mutually satisfying relationship could result. They can try various permutations and combinations of these seduction ways on their personalities."

On how these five senses work towards stimulating the libido of male/female partner, Dr. Parikh explains, "Most of these factors (senses) have an association in our mind, so they act as a conditioned stimulus, and can help creating the atmosphere. But the key would be the mutuality and the quality of the non-sexual life would have its direct impact on the sexual life."

Rita adds, "One must be aware to the fact that human body is bristling with sensory receptors - God's gift to humankind - it's up to us to responsibly enjoy it. One must give body the permission to celebrate what's inside; celebrate it with oneself, and with the partner. We must take time to really learn the subtle but very powerful art of seducing the opposite sex using all five senses."

These are simple yet extremely seductive ways.

SENSE OF SIGHT
It's an individual choice how you choose to decorate your bedroom but what's important here is to place care and attention on the location. Stuff like candles, silky bedding and lots of pillows and even hot lingerie can do wonders.

Expert view : This may not be possible all the time but can be reserved for those special occasions where one wants to feel and act different. Using rose petals and pillows as props can surely add to the fun!

SENSE OF SMELL
Aromatics and fragrances are the best mood setters however most of couples won't know how to make the most of it. Aromatics can work for you or against you, so make sure that you know which scents your partner enjoys. Scented candles incense or scented massage oil can excite your partner.

Expert view : Some smells/fragrances make you feel calm and relaxed and this contributes to one's state of mind while making love. A massage certainly tends to loosen you up and soothes your senses.

SENSE OF TASTE
Believe it or not, but food can be powerful aphrodisiacs. Try strawberries with whipped cream, grapes or edible lotions, chocolate syrups or honey.

Expert view : It is understood that aphrodisiacs tend to increase one's libido, desire for sex and set the right mood. Some would even reduce one's usual inhibitions and make you more comfortable, aroused and stimulated.

SENSE OF HEARING
Apart from whispering in ears and listening to your body while making love, other sounds and noises can also do the magic. Let your partner listen to an erotic story in the background pre-recorded in your voice or a romantic piece of music that fits the overall mood you are going for.

Expert view : The kind of noise, nature and type would be important, as a loud, disturbing, croaky cacophonous noise is definitely a turn off. However, some soothing, romantic music can surely get you in the naughty mood.

SENSE OF TOUCH
This happens to be the most erotic senses of all. You can add that extra sensation to this sense with silky bedding, lingerie, or even with oil massage. You may also try building up the mood with ice cube, feather, something furry or a rose bud.

Expert view : The entire human body is an erogenous zone - the neck, shoulders, arms, ear, lips...the list goes on and on! Exploring this zone and stroking it gently can certainly get your partner feel horny and increasingly passionate.

Here are some tips, suggested by the expert, to arouse your senses...

 

SIGHT
1. Move in front of the mirror, so the two of you get front-row seats for the evening show.

2. Make eye contact with each other and let each other know that you have a deep connection.

3. Porn is great, if your partner is game but do not overdo this and neither expect partner to perform like a porn star forcibly. Let it happen naturally.

4. Keep the lights soft and filtered, as too bright lighting can detract from the ambience.

5. You can even try doing a strip tease for each other on some romantic number.

SMELL
1. Pheromones, the perfume of sexual attraction (produced by your body naturally) can be a great turn-on but make sure your partner is comfortable with it.

2. Rose petals can either be stewed on the bed or you can take a sensual bath with rose petals in the tub. Other herbal aphrodisiacs like jasmine, rose and ylang ylang can also be tried.

3. Gently wipe your light bulbs with a thin coat of perfumed oil and it'll send calming or sensual scents throughout the bedroom.

4. Sprinkle dusting powder on your sheets to make them fragrant and silky. Scented sachets of lavender and rosemary also add to the air of romance.

5. Slightly menthol scented hygiene washes can be used to wash your body for that fresh tingly smell.

6. Use a mint or a mouth freshener before you kiss your partner.

TASTE
1. Get some sensual food items to bed like chocolate sauce, strawberries, grapes or whipped cream to explore the world of sexy tastes.

2. Bring a few flavored warming massage oils that come in multiple flavors like strawberry, cherry and banana. These sexy oils not only create heat and lubrication, they taste good, too!

3. Hand-feed each other fruits with curious textures, like pomegranates or lychees. The sugar and unique feel of the fruit on her lips and tongue can serve up an arousing double shot of pleasure.

4. Drink champagne from sexy champagne glasses, caress the long stem and lick each other's lips - this is mind blowing too.

5. Edible underwear in different flavors can also be experimented with.

SOUND
1. Play some slow, romantic music to get your partner in the mood for a long night of sex.
Be vocal. Moan when he/she hits the right spots during the act. These sounds boost up arousal.

2. Give him/ her little auditory arousal with some hot compliments. Do dirty talk and tell each other what you would like to do to them.

3. Try enacting a fantasy character and talk like him/ her - a fantasy lover, film star, or characters like doctor, nurse etc... just go crazy with the imagination.

4. If it's noisy outside your bedroom window, hang thick curtains to muffle the sound. Keep distractions such as the television in another room.

5. Please recheck that your bed does not make squeaky sounds.

TOUCH
1. Make your room romantic and as cosy as possible by maintaining the right temperature, as per the season.

2. Put silky/ satiny sheets on the bed, which will make the bed look instantly ready for sex. Real key is a comfortable mattress, so make sure that it's neither too hard nor too soft.

3. Hold an ice cube in your palm and as it melts, drip it down his/her abdomen.

4. A foot massage can trigger the nerves that connect with the genitals.

5. Stroke each other's hair and to further arouse this, give each other a back massage. Use feather, flowers, and petals to stroke the body and send shivers down the spine.

6. Lick each others trigger zones and breathe on the neck and ears. Blind fold your partner with silk scarf and let the game start.

Source:timesofindia.indiatimes.com

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